Cindia with Dr. Joe Vitale I can hear Mr. Rogers singing in my memory, “It’s a beautiful day in the neighborhood,” as I look outside my window. The sun is shining, the snow has melted and the trees are reflecting light in such a way that I can understand the original inspiration for bringing nature inside and dressing it up for the Holidays.
Groom is in the kitchen making his famous key lime pie for a festive party tonight, tea is steaming in my mug, and Kitty is being his adorable, cute self. In other words, in this moment, life is ideal. But that’s because I’m intentionally putting my attention on what’s working.
When I become distracted and lose my momentum in gratitude, my thoughts return to autopilot and I can easily begin to notice what’s “broken.”
For many people, the Holidays can bring up feelings of loss, impossible relatives, disappointment or unmet expectations, which translates into plain old feeling rotten.
When we feel rotten, the conflict is straight forward: we wish certain things were different than they are. Byron Katie, author of The Work says, “If you argue with what is, you will lose, but only all of the time.”
Okay, that’s brilliant, and we’ve also heard, “What you resists, persists.” On the other hand, Transformational wisdom also says not to get into agreement with your circumstances by talking about it, telling your friends, beating the drum, etc., if you want things to change.
But what if “What Is” bites the big one?
Let me get this straight, if suffering is caused by arguing with What Is and resistance is futile, yet agreeing with and putting attention on the situation makes it grow even worse, what are we to do?? Yeesh, that sounds like a recipe for getting stuck.
Groom is in the kitchen making his famous key lime pie for a festive party tonight, tea is steaming in my mug, and Kitty is being his adorable, cute self. In other words, in this moment, life is ideal. But that’s because I’m intentionally putting my attention on what’s working.
When I become distracted and lose my momentum in gratitude, my thoughts return to autopilot and I can easily begin to notice what’s “broken.”
For many people, the Holidays can bring up feelings of loss, impossible relatives, disappointment or unmet expectations, which translates into plain old feeling rotten.
When we feel rotten, the conflict is straight forward: we wish certain things were different than they are. Byron Katie, author of The Work says, “If you argue with what is, you will lose, but only all of the time.”
Okay, that’s brilliant, and we’ve also heard, “What you resists, persists.” On the other hand, Transformational wisdom also says not to get into agreement with your circumstances by talking about it, telling your friends, beating the drum, etc., if you want things to change.
But what if “What Is” bites the big one?
Let me get this straight, if suffering is caused by arguing with What Is and resistance is futile, yet agreeing with and putting attention on the situation makes it grow even worse, what are we to do?? Yeesh, that sounds like a recipe for getting stuck.
Kitty being adorable If you’re feeling stuck and want to move forward, I was spellbound by the story told to a group of us last month in San Diego by Dr. Joe Vitale of the movie, The Secret. During his one hour presentation, Joe Vitale shared the success of Dr. Len, a therapist in Hawaii who used the powerful Hawaiian prayer of forgiveness called Ho’O’ pono pono to heal an entire ward of criminally insane inmates without ever interacting with them. He simply repeated the Hawaiian prayer of forgiveness over and over, affirming his connection to The Divine and clearing negative thoughts.
Don’t let the long word with mainly O’s and a couple of apostrophes put you off. Ho O pono pono. The prayer contains four easy phrases to remember: “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.”
Talk about stuck! The inmates were physically restrained or on heavy doses of sedatives. They were definitely arguing with What Is and turning to violence in an attempt to change it, sowing even more seeds of suffering. Dr. Len was not responsible for the actions of those criminally insane inmates, but he was willing to change what was inside of him in order to help the situation “out there.” And it worked. After months of invoking those words, the inmates were healed and released.
The crux of the idea is that if you see something reflected “out there” in your world that is not to your liking, be the one willing to step up and release the negativity. Kinda like, if you seen it, clean it.
“Whenever you forgive radically, you release enormous amounts of life force energy that then can be made available for healing, creativity, and expressing your true purpose in life,” writes Collin Tipping.
Byron Katie sums it up perfectly. “Even if you’ve forgiven 99%, you aren’t free until your forgiveness is complete. The 1% you haven’t forgiven them is the very place where you’re stuck in all your other relationships including your relationship with yourself.”
You can investigate further by using our friend Google if you want to learn more about these remarkable Forgiveness Pioneers and their tools.
Don’t let the long word with mainly O’s and a couple of apostrophes put you off. Ho O pono pono. The prayer contains four easy phrases to remember: “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.”
Talk about stuck! The inmates were physically restrained or on heavy doses of sedatives. They were definitely arguing with What Is and turning to violence in an attempt to change it, sowing even more seeds of suffering. Dr. Len was not responsible for the actions of those criminally insane inmates, but he was willing to change what was inside of him in order to help the situation “out there.” And it worked. After months of invoking those words, the inmates were healed and released.
The crux of the idea is that if you see something reflected “out there” in your world that is not to your liking, be the one willing to step up and release the negativity. Kinda like, if you seen it, clean it.
“Whenever you forgive radically, you release enormous amounts of life force energy that then can be made available for healing, creativity, and expressing your true purpose in life,” writes Collin Tipping.
Byron Katie sums it up perfectly. “Even if you’ve forgiven 99%, you aren’t free until your forgiveness is complete. The 1% you haven’t forgiven them is the very place where you’re stuck in all your other relationships including your relationship with yourself.”
You can investigate further by using our friend Google if you want to learn more about these remarkable Forgiveness Pioneers and their tools.
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